This would be easier to deal with if she would address some of the issues. I say easier, although that is still a damned site more time than I would like with someone else in my environment. And she won't deal with the issues of course since she considers our issues are actually about “your stupid ideas on hygiene”.
And after a lifetime of learning that clothes don’t need washing… nor do you need to shower or brush your teeth, it’s hard work attempting to steer him back to a reasonable direction. We have attempted to combat her obvious slovenliness. The kid is instructed to hit the shower five minutes after arriving. I slink in before he arrives to remove my paraphernalia, leaving only a bottle of shampoo that can’t be missed. Of course he ignores this request and comes out with wet hair that still looks dull and lank. While grabbing the towel, I check and the bottle remains closed and dry.
Will he have told her...? Not a chance.